Book Review: She Broke Up I Didn’t! …I just kissed someone else – Dujoy Datta

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Category: Romantic

Review:

Like many other books i have read, this one also belongs to same old routine Love story things. The book revolves around Deb – the protagonist and his girlfriend, friends and their college life.

i would not elaborate on the details about their so called love story as it is too mainstream. Coming back to the title of the book – it is the reason why the lead couple break up. The girl finds his boyfriend (Our protagonist) kissing someone else. The protagonist is drunk and defends himself to his best. But, girls you know. She asks for a break and the main part of the book begins. The guy goes mad, crazy, drunk and also angry at times (like all other guys).

in meantime, there are two important characters – Kabir and Malini, both have very crucial roles to play in the break up thing.

After a month the girl is back to protagonist and things start to patch up only to last for a short time. To justify an Indian authors fucked up and mediocre love story, the story takes a U – turn. The girl tells our protagonist that even she kissed a guy (Kabir) and also made out with him during the break.Our protagonist goes hell lot crazy and ends it once and for all.

Wait, its still not over. Meanwhile all get placed (they are doing their MBA in MDI, Gurgaon) and are back to respective lives. Our protagonist tries to forget the incident with the help of someone else (Malini, the girl he was caught kissing). It all comes to an end where our protagonist learns that his girl had lied to him in his face. She was just testing his Love for her (So called TESTING).

Now, in the end, our protagonist is guilty of all what he behaved and is back convincing or manofying his girl.

P.S – The book has got some solid punch lines which one can relate to one’s private life (and obviously to relationships).

some of the obvious real life things i found in the book:

1) Only girls have the right to rule (i would not say lead, never) in a relationship.

2) They can call for a break whenever they want and it will be till they desire to.

3) If you do the same, you don’t LOVE them enough.

4) A girl can test your love for her; if you you dare to try it, its all about TRUST issues.

5) Boys are responsible for that sweet SMILE to disappear from a Girl’s (probably princesses) face.

6) All guys are assholes, i mean all, and always!!

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Shame is shamefull today..so is ME..!!

nilanjana s roy

That girl, the one without the name. The one just like us. The one whose battered body stood for all the anonymous women in this country whose rapes and deaths are a footnote in the left-hand column of the newspaper.

Sometimes, when we talk about the history of women in India, we speak in shorthand. The Mathura rape case. The Vishaka guidelines. The Bhanwari Devi case, the Suryanelli affair, the Soni Sori allegations, the business at Kunan Pushpora. Each of these, the names of women and places, mapping a geography of pain; unspeakable damage inflicted on women’s bodies, on the map of India, where you can, if you want, create a constantly updating map of violence against women.

For some, amnesia becomes a way of self-defence: there is only so much darkness you can swallow. They turn away from all the places that have become shorthand for violence beyond measure…

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MEN with Power, are WE?

India is a culturally rich land where we value our tradition and beliefs more than humanity. What our tradition our social culture tells is a girl / a woman is and has to be treated like a princess, a doll and a very gentle thing. She should be protected against all odds by her father / boyfriend / husband and should always be supported what may come. ‘SHE’ is considered the epitome of love, care and humbleness over the century’s right from the myths till today’s modern day world.

Yeah..!! I am totally in agreement in what all the social and cultural beliefs are. I am no one and stands no were to question and challenge it. I have a question to be answered, what about the masculine society or male segment of our culture and tradition. I will quote Winston Churchill here, “Men occasionally stumble over the truth, but most of them pick themselves up and hurry of as if nothing had happened”. The hidden meaning behind it is very subtle and apt. Over the years Men have being considered as a power house physically and mentally capable of handling any situations and again ready to be normal, ready to be themselves against all odds.

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The question still remains unanswered!! Is it really true and still considered to be validating in today’s world? India celebrated its 65th Independence Day a couple of days ago. All were talking about the liberalization and freedom of girls / women. The talked about how the feminine part of the world is suffering from ill treatment and uncanny behaviour from the society. The culprit here is the society and not the men or so called ‘Patriarchal’ thing. Men are always considered feeling less or even sometimes heart less. So the question is where the actual power lies? With a woman or with her counterpart man??

In today’s so called modern day world, men are becoming metro – sexual, which means they are also now more concerned about their clothing manner, the way they look and their image. People relate it to a change that was but obvious. Have we thought why so?? Men in today’s world are more loaded with work, responsibilities and many other things which are making them weak physically and mentally. Physical health is taken care by regular exercise and work outs.  What about the mental health? Isn’t it also important?? Men try to relax by talking and sharing with their other half, their women!!

Changing lifestyles have made everyone of us busy. Today girls / women want to get into a relationship, get secured with someone but, when sharing of responsibilities comes, they are out of it. There is no calmness and one cannot rely on each other for happiness anymore. Carrier is important for both men and women but one should not forget that being together physically and mentally is also very important.

The numbers are talking about it. The no. of men who are troubled with heart diseases, stress and depression is increasing. I am not at all surprised, if they are not mentally fit, they cannot share with their loved ones, and the space for which they are craving for will be empty, always.

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Happiness !!

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Happy!! Happiness!! Sounds so good at first, nah? As rightly said by Dalai Lama “Happiness is not something readymade, it comes from your own action”. One should not try to seek happiness from others or even from external surroundings. Happiness lies within you and me. One should bring out that inner happiness to make life more worth living. 

Here is a daily schedule for getting Happiness:

When you start the day –

  1. Rise early – the key to happy and fit life
  2. Exercise or go for a walk – get synced with the beautiful nature and feel fresh and happy
  3. Eat well – eat fresh stuff and avoid junk food to remain healthy and happy
  4. Be grateful – thank God for showing you a another wonderful day
  5. To do – make a list of things ‘to do’ for the day; keep it short and achievable

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Throughout the day –

  1. Compliment someone – make someone else happy to feel good; you can start from your own home
  2. Smile – be cheerful and pleasant to everyone, always
  3. Plan, organize and execute – be well prepared for the day and execute things very well, finish your work before time
  4. Help someone – lend a helping hand, however small the help may be

After day’s work –

  1. Hoobily – spend some quality time keeping yourself engaged in your favorite pastime or a hobby
  2. Entertainment – watch TV, listen to music or just be with someone you feel good
  3. Read – read something that pleases you; may it be newspaper, book or anything
  4. Fine dine – eat on time and drink adequate amount of water
  5. Sleep early – “Early to bed early to rise makes you healthy, happy, wealthy and wise” 

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So, think Happily, work Happily, live Happily !!

RURAL India – RULING India !!

“India lives in her villages” said Mahatma Gandhi. Today two of the three Indians live in rural areas. Then why is the hinterland still neglected? What has made the GDP contribution of agriculture go down to just a mere 14.5%? Some more serious questions need to be answered.

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In my first year of MBA, I along with my classmates presented on a topic ‘Sudden Lure of Rural India’, which talked extensively on the opportunities and challenges faced by the rural Indian markets. Today the presentation flashed in front of my eyes and I felt that we missed loads many problems to be discussed.

Going by facts, today as much as 40% of consumption is accounted for by the rural India. Rural India has 800 million people which is bigger than the size of Europe live in some 7 Lakh villages, only a few with all the basic amenities available. The marketers say that by 2025 the Indian rural market will be a USD100 billion opportunity for retail market to spread.

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The figures seem mind boggling!! But there are many challenges and hindrances which one will have to face while catering to such a huge population.

Agriculture which is considered to be the major contributor to the country’s progress depends upon the rains. There is no proper irrigation facility in most of the parts of India which has resulted in less than average production of food grains over years. Villagers are in huge debts and are forced to compel themselves to commit suicides. The government subsidy is adding to the fiscal deficit without even reaching to the needy.

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Health, nutrition and hygiene conditions are the worst in rural parts. Two million children under the age of five die – one every 15 seconds – each year in India. The government boasts about the rising literacy rates in the country where the primary schools in villages are short of teachers. The basic amenities like water, shelter, food and electricity have reached only a small proportion of households in the country.

The rural youth is unemployed. Lack of proper skills, knowledge and access to the flourishing Urban India is the major reason behind it. Villages are cut off from the urban (so called) parts of the country due to poor infrastructure and transport facilities.

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I feel very depressed and low when I write all this about my own country. Still there is a chance of progress and growth is possible.

The government and also the people should strive hard to get back our prestige and morale high on prosperity. There are many villages where people along with the help of government have made their place better to sustain. Various corporate initiatives like the ITC’s e – Chaupal, HLL Shakti and HUL’s Sustainable Living Plan can help the rural youths make them more employable. 

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Technological advances have not left the villages uncovered. Television, mobile phones and computers are reaching the remotest of the country and are a revolutionary for the people. The lack of access to banks or Financial Inclusion has been taken seriously and RBI has already started to target and reach more villages. Various NGOs and corporate bodies are now personally trying to help the rural people prosper and help country use this huge population for a better cause.

Rural India is the powerhouse ready to emerge. We need to make new model of sustainable growth with the help of people and the government. The time has come to focus ourselves towards the villages as it is the place where the true India dwells.

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Inspiration to write: Article in ET on July 24; by Harish Manwani on “Rural India – An Emerging Powerhouse”

the “ELBOW PUSH Factor”

Many of you must be thinking what does the title actually means? It means “If you leave a space measuring more than your forearm – from the tip of your finger to your elbow – between you and the person just ahead of you in a queue in India, such a gap, is just not feasible to sustain. It shall get bridged or occupied within 5 minutes”. 

You now will understand that the term best fits Indian context. Imagine you are standing in a queue at a public space and you leave a distance of one forearm between you and the person standing ahead you, you will see that the space either gets filled by someone else or the person standing behind you will nudge on you to move ahead. Isn’t it interesting that we Indians are who are at times concerned about their personal space will not find such civic behaviour interrogating.

Culturally we are born and brought up in a country with such a huge population (1.22 Billion) that we don’t find anything wrong while invading the physical space of an individual. We are accustomed to create an intimacy with our fellow queuers and start making a gala time out of it.  As compared to western world where the physical space of an individual is so important that the find it offensive if someone tries to invade it.

If we talk about Indian retail outlets the infrastructure is designed due to constraints of space and capital which can lead to The Elbow Push Factor. The gap left (forearm long!) will either be filled immediately or will be used as a pass by by other customers. Some western countries also are facing a “butt brush factor” which means people don’t like getting jostled or bumped into, especially from behind. They get put off and reduce or completely give up purchasing when they encounter the ‘butt brush factor’ in a store.

In India with billions of aspirants and limited space and its implications, people knowingly or unknowingly have accustomed themselves to “the elbow push factor” and have started liking the “butt brush” factor also!!

 

ImageOriginal source: http://forbesindia.com/blog/shopkpeeper-in-law/the-elbow-push-factor/